Imagery by Elizabeth Molina
"I've been like, realizing stuff.."
Yes, that was a Kylie Jenner reference, but on a serious note, as of lately I've had an awakening of some sort. I may not look like it but I used to be that one person who would "sweat the small stuff". At times it’d get so bad it would ruin my day, put me in a bad mood and tire me not only mentally but physically, ultimately cutting my days short, obligating me to go to bed with a migraine. Sadly, or luckily, I realized a lot of that stress and anxiety was being caused by people close to me, I was letting other people’s actions control my mood and dictate how my day went!
I used to be that one person who would "sweat the small stuff"
What a strange thing to do right? Having no control whatsoever of what someone else thinks, says, or does and still allowing their actions take a toll on our emotions. We read quotes all over Instagram about getting rid of negative people in our lives, "no time for negativity" or "no time for haters" this and that. But do we actually stand a chance on distancing ourselves from these kinds of people? It seems to me they're everywhere, for instance, your very best friend could be having a bad day and project that energy onto you. What if that negativity is coming from a coworker, family member, partner, etc, someone you can't really avoid altogether?
No matter who that someone may be, I've realized I have the power to decide how I'll take whatever's being thrown my way, I have the power of brushing it off, staying "un-bothered". I think about it this way, aside from what I've already mentioned, and that is the lack of control over others, will it matter by tomorrow, a week from now, a month? Does it make me or break me in any way? Does it change my life drastically? Most of the time the answer to those questions would be a big ass NO, so why spend so much energy dwelling on it?
Truly no one is responsible for our happiness but ourselves.
Truly no one is responsible for our happiness but ourselves. Implementing this way of thinking into my daily life has helped me tremendously, I have fallen in love with taking care of my mental health, as Bil Keane said “Your mind is like water, my friend. When it is agitated, it becomes difficult to see. But if you allow it to settle, the answer becomes clear.”